Why is the newly wedded man called GROOM and the woman called BRIDE? A friend of mine got tired of his WIFE just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him the right thing, so I went home. And that is what gives birth to this message.
Some MEN have broken up with their WIVES because they end up not being the WIFE that they have dreamt of. But *some men had forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.*
Nobody calls the woman WIFE on her wedding day but BRIDE, *because it is the man that will GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE.* That is why the man is called ‘BRIDEGROOM or GROOM’ and *the word grooming has to do with PATIENTLY NURTURING, TEACHING, TENDING and HELPING someone to become what he or she should be.*
Actually, It is therefore believed that a MAN that takes a WOMAN to the ALTAR of MARRIAGE is matured enough to patiently GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. *The man is not supposed to just expect the BRIDE to automatically become the WIFE, she must be groomed by the commissioned husband.*
It is clear that some men have unnecessary expectations when they were getting married, they want some magic to happen to their wives. They want the BRIDE to automatically become wife without being groomed to become what they have had in mind about who they want their wives to be. Some men do not put into considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes TIME and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want.
*So before you think of breaking up with your wife, have you groomed her?*
*Have you given your wife TIME to understand you?* *Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk automatically without been taught on how to fly.* God often brings People that are opposites of each other together in MARRIAGE so that they can HELP EACH OTHER in their place of weaknesses.
If your WIFE is weak and you as the husband is weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed?
The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept People before attempting to change them. Of course, wives are not from thesame backgrounds with their husbands, so it will take TIME for them to adjust.
*Don’t attempt to change your wife alone, ACCEPT her, LOVE her, TEACH her and be PATIENT with her; that is what grooming is all about.*
Right from wedding day she is going to be your BRIDE but she will be the WIFE you want her to be. Therefore,GROOM her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you are hawk, she cannot fly so, be PATIENT with her. *I don’t believe that your MARRIAGE can’t work, be PATIENT and allow GOD to HELP you.* That’s my counsel for you as you are reading this *YOU are the architect of your home, no body will build it for you, you can only be given counsel. The bulk of the home building is your responsibility.*
You as the husband, your moral responsibility to your wife include: you are her teacher, you are her mentor,you are her adviser, you are her defense, you are her manager and you are her father. *Because she is your first born. I wonder how many men understand this fact.*
If you attempt to dodge your responsibility as the husband, thinking your wife knows all, you have failed. A teacher never gets tired in the course of teaching, continual persistence brings the expected results.
Therefore, wives too must bury all egos and pride in the grave of submission so as to receive instructions and teaching that the husband brings. Don’t always try to prove your point, it is injurious. Atimes, let the will of you husband prevail to give peace a space in your home.
May God Almighty continue to be with us, guide and protect us in all our affairs – Amen!
Wishing you the best in your Marital Life.(credit to the anonymous author )